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The war of words between estranged mother and daughter Candy and Tori Spelling just got more vicious and public.

In an open letter addressed to "MIDDLE-AGED REALITY SHOW STARS (LIKE MY DAUGHTER)" and sent to TMZ, Candy says she wants no part of Tori's Oxygen series Tori & Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood — and lashes out at her 36-year-old daughter for using her two children as "reality show props."

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"I know many middle-aged people have issues about their parents and their upbringing. I did. My memories didn't match all those of my mother, and, funny thing, it's the same way with my daughter," Candy wrote. "Life has consequences. What you say is on the record. Other people have feelings."Reacting to Home Sweet Hollywood

's two-part finale in which Tori makes an "agonizing decision" to invite Candy to daughter Stella's first birthday party, the elder Spelling says she initially RSVPed before changing her mind. Candy, 63, has never met Stella."A big party wasn't how I envisioned meeting my granddaughter for the first time; but, hey, this is Hollywood, and my grandchildren have become reality show props," Candy wrote. "At the time I [RSVPed] 'yes,' I didn't realize I was being set up for a two-parter... I [then] decided my first meeting with my granddaughter should be on home video, not primetime cable; so I emailed that I would not be attending."

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Tori isn't the only person in need of a dose of actual reality, Candy wrote. Sharing lessons learned from late husband Aaron Spelling — that show "plots have to be fresh and updated" — Candy cautions all reality stars (Jon and Kate, are you listening?) to not prioritize reel life over real life."[R]eal life doesn't get edited to make things better or worse or get better ratings," she wrote. "You're responsible for what you do... And your families can't just be props. Make your own season finale without creating conflicts you will regret later."