So far, Allison DuBois' life as a medium has been well done. Not only is she the inspiration for the hit NBC series Medium, featuring Patricia Arquette as a barely fictionalized version of her, but she's also an accomplished author. With her third book, Secrets of the Monarch: What the Dead Can Teach Us About Living a Better Life,hitting stores this week, TVGuide.com talked to DuBois about living life as a medium and what everyone should be doing to feel more fulfilled.
TVGuide.com: Secrets of the Monarch is your third book. What is it about?
My first book was more about my childhood and how losing my father impacted me. My second book was more about people who lost a loved one and how I gave them a voice. It was advice for others who lost somebody. This book is about what the dead can teach us about living a better life.
TVGuide.com: What can they teach us?
To not take everything so personally, and connect with other people without fearing rejection. Take risks in life. I talk about how some of the cases I've worked on the past few years have made me reassess my life and what I want to do with it.
TVGuide.com: What were some of those life changes?
Doing Medium was a risk for me. Putting my life out there, exposing my family, was difficult. Some people have stage fright, but try having this be your life. But thanks to the show, I've learned to be up front and comfortable with myself and honest about who I am.I also created this list of things to do before I die. One of them was to crash a wedding. Which I just did. I was in Colorado for someone else's wedding. At our hotel, I literally said, "It's a sign." So I went, ate the chocolate-dipped strawberries and had a great time. Nobody knew who I was. I could have been kicked out. But it made me happy.I also always wanted to have a drink with Jimmy Buffett. So I did that with him. It was just on the phone, but it still counts. A friend of mine who knew him set it up on the phone, so I drank a martini while we talked.
TVGuide.com: What's on the list that you haven't gotten to yet?
I want to go to Ireland and roll down a hill of clovers. It may not seem like much, but when you do one small thing, 10 other big things can happen as a rippling effect. If there's more meaning to the hill of clovers, I don't know yet. But we all just have to follow our sense of what we want to be and it'll take us where we are supposed to be. Live for today because tomorrow is not always going to be there. Make your own list. Check off a few things each year and don't apologize for anything on it. It's your list!
TVGuide.com: How has your life changed since Medium went on the air?
People started calling my name in public. You're used to it being somebody you know and now it's a stranger, a fan, somebody who saw me on Oprah or read one of my books. It took some getting used to. Before, when somebody was staring at me, I thought there was something on my face. Now, it's about something else.
TVGuide.com: What sorts of things do people want to talk to you about?
I get a lot of letters from people talking about things I know nothing about. People talk about little green men. They send me hair in the mail, so I can read them. I've also had people put tinfoil on their head to stop me from reading them, and I like to tell them that won't stop me. I don't get as many funny letters as I'd like to get. There was one from someone who said we were married seven lifetimes ago.
TVGuide.com: Do people get you confused with Patricia Arquette?
I don't mind when that happens because Patricia is much calmer on the show than I am in real life. She's the calmer version of the real Allison. I'm trying to learn from her on the show, to not take things so personally and not get so upset about things.
TVGuide.com: Do people have a mistaken idea of what a professional medium is going to be like?
I think I've broken the stereotype of what a medium is. I don't have 13 cats and daggerlike nails. We can drink beer and have friends.
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