"I felt more like a failure than I'd felt in a very long time," she said. Ling, 37, said she doesn't think she took the pregnancy — her first — as seriously as she should have because she got pregnant so quickly. "We actually [hadn't] been trying that long," she says. "But then when I heard the doctor say there was no heartbeat it was like bam, like a knife through the heart."
The thought of another miscarriage has left her "devastated," Ling said, but she decided to share her experience to help other women. She and a business partner have also started a website,
secretsocietyofwomen.com, where women can anonymously share their stories.