After years of lingering glances (and a few stolen kisses), The Vampire Diaries' Elena and Damon are finally together. But is this a good thing?
While fans have been divided since Day One over whether Elena should be with Damon or his brother Stefan, we here at TVGuide.com have also been divided. There's no denying our love for both Salvatores, but while some of us (aka Robyn) are thrilled Team Delena has finally come to fruition, others (aka Sadie) believe Damon is better off alone. Here are our arguments for both sides of the equation.
Sadie Says: Damon deserves better
Though Elena's feelings for Damon might be real, there's no denying part of her still loves Stefan. A love that strong doesn't just disappear overnight (and remember, it wasn't too long ago that Elena broke Damon's heart after choosing Stefan over him). Damon would give anything for Elena, but can you really say she'd do the same for him? Damon deserves someone that loves him only and doesn't waver in her affections — something Elena can never provide. When it comes right down to it, Damon's just too good for her.
Robyn Says: Their chemistry can't be denied!
Damon hasn't been a saint and in many ways intentionally or subconsciously drove Elena away from him because he felt she was too good for him. For a guy who jumps in and out of women's beds, he needs a girl to provide him with stability and show him that he's worthy of love. And while she has often chosen Stefan over him, there's a reason she keeps coming back despite Damon not being the safe choice
Sadie Says: Elena needs to live for herself
Elena is constantly the pawn in someone else's game, so she, more than anyone, deserves the autonomy vampirism can bring. But instead of discovering her independence, Elena found herself sired to Damon. I had hoped becoming a vampire would be Elena's breakout opportunity to go after what she truly wants, but now she can't separate her desires from Damon's will. Destiny's Child was right when they said, "Ladies, it ain't easy bein' independent," but Elena at least deserves a chance to try!
Robyn Says: Damon's support makes Elena stronger ... and cooler!
Damon was the only one urging her to let herself give into vampirism — good, bad and ugly. It's not his fault that her wants and desires lead her back to him. In fact, Damon might be the first person to truly allow Elena to be herself whereas everyone else is constantly judging her actions. With him by her side, she's as independent as we've ever seen her. Besides, have you ever seen her have as much fun as she's had in the last two episodes?
Sadie Says: Damon's driving a wedge between Elena and Caroline
Caroline hasn't always been my favorite character, but over the seasons she's grown into the most sensible and sweet of Mystic Fall's supernatural squad. That's why it breaks my heart to see Damon come between Elena and her best friend (and ruin a completely pleasant girls night!). While Caroline can be a little harsh, she's just trying to protect Elena from the same pain and heartache Damon put her through years ago. Plus, isn't there a rule in the girl code about ho's before bros (not to mention, against dating your BFF's ex)?
Robyn Says: Damon is not responsible for maintaining Elena's friendships
I'll be the first to say how much I love Caroline, but the girl has a grudge against Damon that she'll never let go of. Besides, Elena and Damon's relationship has led Caroline and Stefan to become even closer, which is a friendship I'm so happy to see be explored. And rules about dating friends' exes certainly don't apply to Vampire Diaries, especially Caroline since she's dated the most guys in the group.
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Sadie Says: The sire bond makes girls crazy!
The bond might not change how you feel, but that doesn't mean it's void of serious consequences. After Damon ditched her, Charlotte literally counted every brick on every building in all of New Orleans — for 70 years! But because it was all to "make Damon happy," Charlotte didn't regret it one bit. And while Damon would never treat Elena's free will so flippantly, we've already seen how easily Damon can hurt her. "She almost died to make you happy!" Stefan pointed out, once they discovered Damon's the reason Elena couldn't drink from a blood bag. Call me old-fashioned, but that does not sound like the foundation of a healthy relationship!
Robyn Says: Damon has good intentions despite the sire bond's power
Charlotte was crazy from Day One, and in Damon's defense, he thought he freed her of the bond with the fake spell. And in terms of Elena, this all happened before he was aware that she was sired to him. Even Stefan admitted that Damon loves her as much as he does and when it comes down to it will always do right by her, even if it means letting her go
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Sadie Says: Dating brothers is weird
I know it's television and the Salvatores have always had a weird relationship when it comes to women, but seriously: dating brothers is never OK. Life is not The Family Stone. Imagine the holidays, the family dinners — how could they not be awkward? And didn't Katherine teach Stefan and Damon anything? Sharing is good, but not when it comes to girlfriends!
Robyn Says: The sibling conflict drives the show
OK, fine, but the brotherhood is the foundation of the show and is tested most when it involves love. So without them going after the same person, perhaps we'd never see just how deep their love — and sometimes hatred — for each other goes, and without that, the show would be boring.
Sadie Says: Damon loves Elena a little too much
The real problem with Damon isn't that he's a "psychopath narcissist" — it's that his heart is too big! All Elena wants is for her loved ones to live long and happy lives, but Damon doesn't care about Elena's wishes as long as he gets what he wants — her. When Elena and Matt were drowning after the crash, Stefan listened to Elena's pleads to save Matt first because he understood that was the only way to make Elena happy. Damon, on the other hand, would kill anyone — even one of Elena's best friends — to save her life. Though he's much more sensitive, Damon's still just as selfish as when we met him in Season 1.
Robyn Says: Is there such a thing as too much love?
At the end of the day, I'd rather be with a person who loves me too much rather than not enough and it's a positive thing that the self-proclaimed selfish vampire would do anything in the world for this girl. And can you not make the same argument about Stefan? If he didn't fall for her so hard, he would've been OK to leave her and her friends alone, never involving them in the supernatural world within Mystic Falls.
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The Vampire Diaries airs Thursdays at 8/7c on The CW.